The Power in the Pause: Listening, Leading, and Living with Intention
Finding the Peace in Pause
Realizing the Power in It.
This didn’t start with a business plan or a productivity hack. It started with a pause.
Not the kind that’s forced when you’re overwhelmed, but the kind you choose—the kind that becomes sacred. I began to realize that some of the deepest insight and clarity I’ve ever felt arrived not through doing more, but through pausing.
A pause in life.
A pause in conversation.
A pause in the chaos of day-to-day patterns.
Let’s start with conversations—with ourselves and others.
Pausing in Conversation
Take a simple interaction with a friend. What happens when you intentionally leave space between your words? Between their words? Even the cadence of your voice can become a rhythm of attention, inviting depth and presence into the moment.
But here’s the thing—most people find that uncomfortable. It feels awkward, vulnerable, exposed. I have so much empathy for that. And yet, that discomfort? It’s a window into something real, or exposing…depends on your mindset.
Why do we rush to fill the silence? Why do we ramble when we’re uncertain?
Pause becomes a mirror, not a void. And in that mirror, we begin to see ourselves more clearly.
Which One Are You?
Are you the filler or the feeler? The rambler or the reflector? Maybe both.
Either way, the pause invites you to listen—more to others, but especially to yourself.
Listening More. Speaking Less.
We’ve all heard it, but let it land: Listen more. Talk less. Ask more questions.
People love to share their stories. And when you truly listen, you become a mirror for them, too. Want that same medicine? Find someone (or hire a Life Doula like me… see what I did there?) who reflects you back to you.
Pausing in Your Day
There’s power in those small in-between moments—between the scroll, the sip of coffee, the next task.
What are you ingesting—not just with your mouth, but with your mind and spirit?
Information, relationships, social media, podcasts, blogs (even this one)—they all enter your system. You may pretend it doesn’t affect you… but your unconscious behaviors say otherwise.
Take a pause. Take inventory. You’re always digesting something.
Pausing During Transitions
This is where I harp the most: transitions need space. They deserve pause.
Not just to rest—but to truly hear yourself.
To sift through what’s real and what’s reaction.
To let the soul catch up with the life you’ve been speeding through.
What can you simplify?
What false stress can be let go?
What needs to fall away—not just for productivity’s sake, but for peace?
The pause doesn’t perform. It doesn’t chase. It listens. And in that stillness, something sacred emerges.
Let it.